A year ago, I thought I was almost done. WRONG! The third year of my widowhood was about a lot of releasing. I thought I was pretty well through with that, but I was not. I released almost all of Tom's belongings. I released a lot of emotion. I started a few new adventures. And I dealt with a health setback and wrestled with some changes that I did not want to embrace. All in all, I did A LOT of big emotional work. It really shouldn't be a surprise that my heart went on the fritz. Tom's loss literally and figuratively broke my heart. I have to release the old, with love, in order to build the new. I cannot live in the past, as much as I might like to. I must and I want to move forward. When I look back, I am amazed that I have survived it. 2017 was a transition year of letting go (or in some cases, beginning to let go) of that which had been weighing me down. It has been hard work. But what I can say, which surprises me to no end, is that I am happy with my life as it stands right now. It isn't exactly what I want it to be, and is not the future that I hope to build. But I am happy, or perhaps content is a better word, more than I have been in a long, long time. I still miss Tom and wish he were still here. And I will continue to talk about him. Love never dies.
2018 is only 30 hours away. I am rapidly approaching the third anniversary of Tom's death. The next month will not be easy. It is packed with too many losses and very painful memories. I trust that 2018 will be a year of transmutation and perhaps even transformation.
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